According to Self-Coaching insecurity sets in motion a life of stress, characterized by our attempts to over-control our lives (i.e., worry, pessimism, compulsivity, fear, etc.). Once these controlling strategies become embedded in our lives, we suffer. Unfortunately, most people don’t realize that they are constantly (and passively) feeding and reinforcing toxic thoughts—thoughts that lead to anxiety and depression.
This concept is eloquently portrayed in an old Native American story that has been passed down for generations:
An old grandfather, sitting by the fire one day, wanted to teach his grandson about the difference between good and evil, and so he said, “Inside each of us there are two wolves struggling with each other. One wolf is anger, resentment, self-pity, indulgence, doubt, and fear. The other wolf is contentment, strength, happiness, hope, truth, and love.” The grandson sat, deep in thought, then asked, “Which wolf wins, Grandfather?” The grandfather replied, “The one you feed.”