If because of insecurity you’ve come to perceive danger in safe places, you’ve probably convinced yourself that in lieu of a strong sense of security, you’d best be served by trying to over-control life. Unfortunately, over-controlling life leads to a life of stress, which invariably depletes us chemically, emotionally, and physically.
In time, our chemistry shifts and becomes imbalanced (which is why medication works) and emotionally we respond with symptoms of anxiety and depression--both are neurotic attempts to quell further loss of control.
All this is predicated on the reflexive perception that you can’t trust that you can handle life’s challenges spontaneously, certainly, not without worrisome, compulsive strategies of control.
Bottom line: if faulty, neurotic perceptions are steering your life, it’s time to spend more time separating true facts from the neurotic, what-iffing of emotional fictions.