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todayoklw 12-06-2014 11:56 PM

Am I controlling life?
Dear Dr. Joe,

Here is my problem, I want to know in the case below whether it is controlling.

For example, I want to eat beans, sleeve-fish, potato and drink blacktea, I will search with google to make sure whether the food collocation is not good for my health, am I controlling? Or am I donging what a normal person do? If I'm controlling life, how can I know the food collocation is good or not for my health? After all, there is a possibility, if I depend on my intuition, suppose there is such information in our subconscious mind, and when there is danger the concerned information will be called out and to stop the danger, but subconscious mind doesn't include all of the informations in world, that's mean there is a posibility that there is no concerned information about whether eating beans, sleeve-fish, potato and drinking blacktea are good or not good for my health, in this case, if I risk to trust my intuition, then I eat them first to see whether there is something happen to me, if the food collocation is bad, then the next time I will not eat them together again.

I didn't mean to philosophize, as you see, I've really lost the balance of my mind, I really appreciate for all of the help you gave me, your book shows me a whole new world, now I'm on my way to this beautiful new world.

Again, thank you for helping me! :=)

todayoklw 12-07-2014 12:02 AM

This is just an example, in fact, it happens on many things in my daily life.

Dr. Joe 12-07-2014 02:55 PM

From a Self-Coaching perspective, you need to grasp the concept that everything in life is relative. For example, it is a fact that meteorites occasionally slam into the earth. Does this fact warrant my wearing a hard hat? The answer, based on probability, is to forgo the hardhat and risk living inspite of the extremely remote possibility of a meteorite strike. We all live in the same world with the same challenges, there's no question that it's prudent to be aware and informed, however, when insecurity is steering, and your life is compromised by doubts, fears and negativity, then you're seeing danger in safe places. In order to liberate yourself from compulsive living, it's important to risk self-trust (see today's blog, i.e., 12-7-14).
Dr. Joe

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oceannow 12-26-2014 08:11 AM

helpful for me.

Dr. Joe 12-27-2014 04:23 PM

I do wish you well.

oceannow 01-06-2015 09:08 AM

I am a Chinese from Canton, I have some trouble to express myself in English. I am reading your book "Self-Coaching:The powerful Program" Chinese version now. It is helpful. Thank you for your help for the persons who beat anxiety and depression all over the world.

Dr. Joe 01-06-2015 02:25 PM

I appreciate your feedback and feel grateful that my words can reach and help others around the world.

Dr. Joe

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