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Old 10-23-2014, 02:12 PM
Dr. Joe Dr. Joe is offline
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Your life right now has become a routine, as you say, of avoidance. You are anesthetizing yourself from engaging in more meaningful pursuits. I understand you simply don't know how to proceed, however, by becoming victimized by your habits (eating, TV, games) you are supporting your habit/routine of insecurity and avoidance. Perhaps this is where you need to begin, insisting on more moderation rather than indulgence in these activities. At first this will create a vacuum and it's certainly possible you won't know what to do to fill the empty space. This is where my concept of "releasing happiness" comes into play, rather than trying to figure out what to do, see what happens. It may be a "whim," for example, "It's such a nice day, perhaps I'll take a walk." Do keep in mind that capitulating to destructive habits will prevent you from ever getting in touch with more positive inclinations. So, again, I stress trying to moderate, minimize or eliminate anything destructive in your life. All this said, sometimes a low-grade depressed mood could be involved, shutting down your motivation and enthusiasm for life. If you suspect that this might be the case then it's like walking against a current in a stream, every step becomes a battle. If you do suspect this is the case, I would suggest that you consider a consultation with a mental health professional. There's a Zen adage that when the pupil is ready, the teacher appears. Start to release yourself from destructive habits and then let's see what appears.

I do wish you well,
Dr. Joe

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