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Old 02-24-2005, 01:32 AM
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Default Recovering from a Verbally Abusive Relationship

I left a verbally abusive relationship about six months ago. I have had enough strength to completely cut any ties with my abuser. The problem is that I seem to have feelings of low self-esteem. I'm frequently second-guessing myself. I know that leaving the relationship was the best thing in the world for me. What I want to do is get back to the life-loving, confident person that I used to be. I know that I still have that person in me, I just want to bring that feeling back again. Do you have any suggestions or comments that might help?
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Old 02-25-2005, 03:54 AM
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I would guess that being in an abusive relationship has eroded your self-confidence. What's necessary is to rebuild your sense of worth, trust, and confidence. Self-Coaching can certainly help you accomplish this. In my book, The Power of Self-Coaching, I have a five-step program (FYI: check out the What's New section, the video may be helpful) you can learn to separate fact from fiction (establishing the truth about who and what you are, in spite of any distortions your insecurity is throwing at you), stop listening to reflexive, insecure thinking, and finally to let go, turn away from insecurity and allow your more instinctual, intuitive sense of self to emerge (without the contamination created by doubts, fears, and negatives). I do feel that a bit of Self-Coaching can turn this around for you.

Disclaimer: The diagnosis of clinical anxiety or depressive disorders requires a physician or other qualified mental health professional. The information provided is intended for informational purposes only. Please understand that the opinions shared with you are meant to be general reference information, and are not intended as a diagnosis or substitute for consulting with your physician or other qualified mental health professional.

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