Are you a “yes” person? A “people pleaser?” Learn how to take care of your true needs and desires. 

In this episode, Lauren and I address a rather common problem—saying yes when you mean to say no. The dynamic lies in insecurity. When you sell out on yourself and yield to someone else’s wish you feel safe knowing they will be pleased with you. If, however, you say no, the outcome is less certain. They may get annoyed or angry with you.

It’s not a terrible problem, but as we discuss in this episode, your time is valuable and pleasing others at your expense is wasting your valuable time. We’ll tell you how to stand up for yourself and reframe that knee-jerk, “yes,” into a more honest, “I’d rather not.”  The simple act of creating and maintaining healthy boundaries can empower you to live a life of integrity and personal liberation.

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