Why you need to stop over-thinking
The reason why an anxious person gets caught up negative, ruminative, worrisome thinking is simply because they’re trying too hard to “figure out” how to handle the endless doubts, fears, and negative anticipations. I call this “over-thinking.” Over-thinking is a manifestation of insecurity and only fuels the problem, making you more and more anxious. The key isn’t trying harder; it’s learning not to try!
Try this experiment. Begin by “de-focusing” your thoughts and re-focusing on your unfolding moment–whatever you’re doing–listen, feel, breath, but DON’T think or judge, simply participate with full attention.
Pretend that you’re a video camera, simply recording every external nuance and detail in your environment. This simple exercise will help you detach from (and break the cycle of) ruminative anxiety. Do this and you’ll be teaching yourself something very important, i.e., that you never have to feel victimized by anxious, over-thinking again!