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Worry begets worry

Maybe even before the covid19 epidemic you were prone to worrying. Maybe you even called yourself a worrywart. If so, maybe preparing for the worst doesn’t sound so terrible to you. You may think it’s prudent, if not smart. And I wouldn’t disagree if it weren’t for the compulsive, unrelenting loop of worry that gets generated.

If there’s one thing certain about worrying (IMPORTANT: I’m not talking about being concerned. Concern deals with facts, and that’s smart. Worry deals with projections of future chaos and vulnerability), it’s the fact that worry begets worry. So, as you can see, worrying isn’t innocently involved with wanting to batten down the hatches and prepare for potential threats, it’s more of a primitive, child-like need to escape life’s challenges altogether.

When, because of insecurity and lack of self-trust, you feel you can’t handle some aspect of life, then worry becomes an attempt to figure out how dodge the bullet and rehearse for the worst. Worry is often an attempt to somehow—if not magically—find a way to figure out how to feel less vulnerable. In a sense, you’re trying to worry away the fears.

What’s the opposite of worry? Courage! Courage and a willingness to let life unfold dealing with each day as it presents itself. Yes you can!

#anxiety #covid19worry #depression

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